FLASHBACK WEDNESDAY

Can We Go Back In Time ?

Is a beautiful Wednesday, and I'm happy as usual. Started with playing my cool RnB's as early as 5am, danced all through in the shower, dressed up, prayed and I left for work.

Meanwhile I've been trying to understand how our parents and grandparents coped without phones. Technology  does not seem to have or be coming to a halt, rather it keeps improving. I mean it's good but I think it has made a lot of things that seem to be fun loose its value. 

I wasn't there in the 80's or early 90's but I just met with an aged friend and when I started to sing "stuck on you" by Lionel Richie he was amazed and was like wow your dad taught you this song? Lol, I said yeah he used to play it a lot while growing up. And then I told him that's the songs they used to toast our mothers then, he laughed and we had a good conversation. 

I've come to realise that technology especially our phones has made a lot of things easier but also took away the fun of it. Like who still writes a love letter and sprays a parfum on it and then gets appreciated for the little gesture? Infact I think a lot of us have a bad handwriting this days because we don't write love letters again, lol ask me why?  Well I think from my father's love letters I found from way back I can say that when our parents wrote love letters to each other the tried very well to have the best handwriting as that will sell them off quickly and get the counterpart interest easily. With that way they were constantly improving in their hand writing and also in their vocabulary because they always had a big dictionary right beside them  to look for big words that could fit right into their emotions. Then toasting a lady was a big task as I was told and as lady when you remember how much effort your man made just to say "hi" or even "how are you" you will appreciate him or as a man if you remember how much efforts you made to make a woman yours you will not want to easily throw the relationship away. Who still gets appreciated for gifting a card on birthdays, Valentine or Christmas? No one I guess. Human hairs, iPhones and money are the order of the day 😊.

I also think that technology has also aided infidelity in relationships and marriage now, because men and women are now within reach just get their number or social media handle and you are good to go🤦🏾‍♀️. 

Basically everything is done with our phones now that's why it's a bit addicting for my generation. A lot of people can't do without their phones or without internet again. Infact our happiness is channeled to the internet. No time for quiet time or meditation or to restrategize for the future again, no time to even know and understand yourself better but we are quick to ask on social media "can I know you better 😆"  

Somedays I just put off all my social media accounts, most times I disconnect my line as well Just so I can enjoy my own company. I may play music all day, or watch movies or maybe try learning a new skill or A new hobby. 

I believe everything good also has a bad side but I think we all shouldn't let our phones take the better side of us. Infact my father will always tell me use your phone for productive purposes only.  

I know life is not that serious but is also not that unserious. Let's learn to balance because I still want to receive love letters, flowers , and cards  instead of a constructed Christmas tree text message 🤣🤣🤣. 

Cheers to the rest of a beautiful week.

See you some other day 

LIETTY KAMAH.

EVALUATION WEDNESDAY

 IT'S OKAY TO EVALUATE

Of course i don't want to be sad, I would rather be happy with everyone, but that's not the way it works. It is important to surround ourselves with the right people. Sometimes the wrong people make us happy or maybe we think they do but it doesn't mean they are right for us.

The people we surround ourselves is very important, most times we seem to be comfortable with the people in our lives that we don't stop to think if they are really positive influences. The truth is that the people we surround ourselves with affect us in some ways we cannot necessarily recognise. There is nothing wrong with taking a look around and assessing what type of impact others are having on you.

One big mistake people make is not realising that happiness is a personal choice. But, every choice is influenced by the people in our lives. If you change your life influencers or the people in your life to positive people, you can dramatically increase your chances for happiness and success. Positive social connection has proved to be a great predictor of long-term happiness.

It's okay to evaluate people in your life, you have the power to promote, demote, terminate, and evacuate anyone you like. You are the CEO of your life. 

Remember that!  

LIETTY KAMAH

ALARMING TUESDAY

 ALARMS.

This morning when my alarm went off, 

I gently opened my eyes and was lost in thoughts, 

I asked my self what will happen if I don't report to work? 

Or when will I get to a stage where I won't need an alarm to get me up? 

Or should I lie that I am sick? 

But where will that get me? No where I guess.

I also remembered back then in school when my alarm goes off at 12 midnight with this repeating annoying buzzier  that will make you want to smash your phone.

Then I would open my eyes and start asking myself what Is the worst that could happen if I don't read my books, I mean there are people who are very okay to enter the exam hall without reading and doesn't care about the after math. Well the only difference between I and such people is that I cared.

For me winning is when I stop pressing the snooze button 

Hmmm Alarms! The only thing that reminds me of a where I am going to.

  

Hopefully one day I'll write on the alarms of life but for now have a wonderful day

JOYOUS SUNDAY

JOY
Joy is not a gift but a choice.
According to the Oxford dictionary, it is defined as a feeling of great happiness.
According to the Bible joy is not like happiness which is based upon happenings, whether things are going well or not. No, joy remains amidst suffering.
Rick Warren defined joy as the settled assurance that God is in control of all the details of my life, the quiet confidence that ultimately everything is going to be alright and the stringed choice to praise God in every situation.
Most people define joy as a feeling of happiness, when everything is going on well and you are smiling and laughing a lot. Many tie and limit their joy to their career success, academic success, getting married, spouses, relationship and other material things. But have you ever asked yourself this question "what happens when it is gone? Will I still be joyous when they are taken from me? "
When you choose a wrong choice of joy and it gets attacked we loose focus, it begins to feel like the world is closing in on us. We begin to loose our strengths, gradually our health deteriorates , we start to loose inspiration and direction, and finally fall into depression.
We must learn to to be joyous and happy regardless of what happens around us. You know why?  Because, we can't control what happens around us but we have the ability to control what happens in us.  Don't tie your joy to things or to a person because we can't control who they are or want to be.
It is a trying time for the world but we must not let that attack our joy,  Before this pandemic a lot of people limited their joy to clubbing, social drinking, hangouts etc but now this things are temporarily no more, so what next?.  That  is why we have be careful during this self isolation period because if not managed well, one can fall into depression.. learn to set daily goals, learn new things and be happy regardless.
Always remember "joy is not  gift but a choice so choose wisely"